This was published a couple of years ago, but Slate posted it again… A timely read, especially as we prepare for our annual and perhaps my husband’s least favored household activity: putting up our blue (for Hanukkah) holiday lights.

The Santa Conspiracy.”

I’m not sure when I started to believe in Santa, exactly. But I sure liked it. And it’s silly, but I still kind of believe. I still like it, the thought of Santa.

“It’s always easier to want to believe in something than it is to say it never was true.”

I like Tobolowsky’s concluding thought on this sentiment, originally expressed by a six-year-old (!): It’s about hope. 

“…the ability to believe is always present, always available. Belief gives us a power to see beyond the obvious. In the face of loss or disappointment, it is the source of renewal and endurance, the foundation of the science of second chances.”

 

 

an odd couple

A bit ago I described a not-so-secret sauce of economic well-being, as explored by Emma Green of The Atlantic. It’s what one might call luck bestowed, education completed, and opportunities taken. Another might call it simply being on the sunnier side of the income gap.

Today, based on the work of Jennifer Silva and her colleague Sarah Corse, Amanda Hess of Slate describes marriage as a middle-class luxury item. (Not quite a 1% luxury, as Salon’s headline editors might argue, but a luxury item nonetheless.)

Meanwhile, I read today (also on Slate!) that an increasing number of siblings, up to a number, like 8, increases your chances of not divorcing your spouse.

So not only is marriage for the wealthy or wealthier, it’s also more likely to succeed among those from large families.

Really? Oh really? I grew up watching Dynasty. Stuff didn’t look so rosy there, despite the abundance of rouge and tight smiles.

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So much study, rumination, and angst over what makes a strong marriage and concurrently yields economic well-being. You can read through it all, and conclude it’s essentially, (with other nice variables thrown in if you’d like) Money + Humility. Is that the bottom line?

Yeah, those go hand in hand, all the time. Yikes.

But growing up, I watched Felix and Unger, too. Anything is possible.