They saw that partners who succeeded at being parents and maintaining good marriages “have a process for discussing issues; they don’t avoid conflict and they don’t prolong fruitless stalemates.”
Well, yes. That’s the type of stuff one should work out before marriage. Right?
Rebecca Onion has an interesting idea: a pre-pregnancy contract with her husband. Whatever it is that gets a couple to say what the mean when they need and mean to say it? Go for it.