Two things for you, because for me today, these two things made all the difference.
First, please read, if you have not already, “The Trick of Life,” an opinion piece in The New York Times by Akhil Sharma. “The less I thought about myself, the more myself I became.”
Second, take a look at this:
The heart is a muscle. Maybe it can stretch and can grow more flexible. And maybe it can get stronger when it bears more.
When it moves.
Diary of a Corporate Wife 
“When it moves.” Yes indeed. Let’s hope that that proves to be true.
It will. I promise.
Your confidence is so inspiring. You know what I did today? I was in a conversation and for the first time described myself as a corporate husband. I really feel that way now.