more on giving and taking

I’ve taken it upon myself to try to demonstrate, with a handy little info-graphic, what it takes in terms of volunteer hours to pull off what our PTA pulls off each fall. Our school has a tremendous group of volunteers. Our PTA wants to thank them–especially after a few volunteers had some unfortunate exchanges with parents who do not regularly volunteer.

Here’s the thing: in my very humble opinion, our group of volunteers is too small, and will get smaller, because life is very different now than it was even ten years ago. Time and energy are scarce. More and more at-home or even partly at-home parents are re-entering the workforce. My gut (opinion) tells me that if we, as parents, understand the true investment required to do what the PTA does, the value of the PTA will grow. More people might give either time or resources. 

Opinions reflect values. And when you present data, and you have an opinion… well, the presentation of information can be an inherently (insidiously?) political act.

All I want to do is say something like, “this carnival raised a few thousand dollars and required about as many volunteer hours, and its benefits are innumerable–who can put a price on smiling students and families–current and alumni?”

Or something like, “we raised $14,000, and to do it, we needed 226 students to participate in a fundraiser which required over 100 volunteer hours to execute and manage.”

What might people see?

  1. People could see this information and think “Wow, that’s amazing. If I helped a bit more, I could spread that volunteer investment around, and make our efforts even more worthwhile.”
  2. People (not likely the same people) could see this information and think, “I guess they don’t need my help as a volunteer, they have it covered.”

Right there. That divergence of opinion, those two different perspectives: Doers and Watchers. Givers and Takers. (Or, if I’m feeling particularly put upon: Helpers and Free-loaders, or Martyrs and Users.)

Nothing is so cut and dry, though. And this thing I’m trying to do, this picture I’m making? I’m not interested in feeding a martyr’s ego or excusing a user’s lack of participation. I mean, I admit I have an agenda, but I think it’s a nice one: I’m interested in all those people in between. The ones who see that information and simply appreciate it, or maybe even feel pride in what it says about our school’s community.

Maybe those are the people who are especially kind to volunteers when they attend crowded events, knowing that these are volunteers, parents like them, who for whatever reason, have the inclination to give some time, when they themselves do not. Maybe these are the people who quietly donate cases of water, bags and bags of prizes, or have an old high school buddy who could cut us a deal on a bounce house. Maybe they are the people who will chat with fellow parents at sporting events or school events, and speak well of our school and its volunteers, even defend both if need be. 

How do you reach that “middle?” Those people in the middle–they’re the ones that could have even less time and more stress than the doers and the watchers… The ones who might not even have time to stop and look at a flippin’ picture.


Why do we volunteer? Why do I volunteer? Because we–I mean “I”– can. Because I like “doing.” I don’t do it for “thanks.” I don’t think others do, either. It’s just that nobody wants to be taken for granted. Nobody. Hmmm.

I gotta do some more work on this picture.



2 thoughts on “more on giving and taking

  1. My observation is that people in the middle generally just do not want to get involved. They appreciate volunteers, but for whatever reason do not want to do it themselves.

    People like you are very special, and largely do volunteer work for the intrinsic good. You’re not looking for a payoff in any way, but respect and appreciation should be given to all of you.

    I have the time and ability to volunteer, and once my kids are in school will probably volunteer a lot there. Right now, I do some volunteering at places that are connected to people at my wife’s work, and I hope that what I am doing further is her connection at her work. I love the volunteering, but I probably would not be doing exactly this but for the connection to my wife’s work.

    1. Thanks Mark… I’ve updated the info-graphic, and folks seem to like it so far… 🙂
      We all do exactly what we’re able to do. Usually, if we can’t do something now, we will do it later, or we have done something before. Nobody is any one thing 100% of the time. Lives are long.

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